The most of the times, the persons that self harm are young peoples under 25 years old, but also gay and bisexual people. The evidences show that in most cases women tend to self harm themselves more, and usually all the people that try this technique are addicts, alcohol addicts or weeds addicts. All of these persons have lew or none self esteem, so they choose to injur themselves. Some of the women that poisoned themselves were actually pregnant and they didn’t want the baby. Other people have different problems, like they are abused (for example sexual abused) or the young teenagers most common problem is that thier parents are getting thru a divorce. For older people, they may suffer because they have problems in their relantionship, they have problems with the money, they are physical abused or suffer from anxiety.

This persons feel that they have too musch tension inside them, so they want to break free by releasing the tension. Their method is to cut themselves, to bleed. It is supposed that the bllod makes them feel good. The ones that are addicted may feel numb, because many weed addictive persons have declared they felt like that. So they chose to make themselves harm to feel pain, and this way ti feel that they are alive again. Maybe we don’t understand it, but this is their way of thinking.

The women the are pregnant feel guilt, so they will rather do something to release the feeling of shame. They fear about the way they will be viewed by the other people. Some od the people that use to self harm have different problems but don’t have the power to comunicate with the others: so this is the way they panhandle for help, or for atention from their family and friends, so they could notice that something is wrong with the specific person.

The truth is that most of the people that decide to self harm themselves actually want to kill themselves, but maybe somewhere in the process they notice that they are doing something wrong.

It has been researched that the majority of people that are self harming are having a history of sexual abuse or psychical abuse. They are used to be harmed that’s why they react with violence of their body. Talking about family history, these guys usually come from broken families, their parents spend a considerably time at work or they come from alcoholics families.

The most common methods of self harming are: cutting, burning, bone breaking, hair pulling or hitting themselves. This is the superficial type. The stereo type usually manifests by biting himself and trying to mutilate his face. The rarest type that is the major type is practically mutilating him. He is causing definitive mutilation on his body (castration, limb amputation may be one of the few examples).

Self harming people are usually people that tend to be perfectionists, that can’t accept their own mistakes. Because they seem to express their emotions verbally they hurt themselves. The same treatment is applied to those that have dislikes for their own body. For them it’s a way to punish them or a way to express their feelings and emotions or to get attention.

If you find yourself in one of the descriptions from above and want to get rid of this behavior I shall provide you with some advices may they not work for everybody, so if you trying some of the advices and they make you self harm more then stop doing that. Take a deep breath and use relaxation techniques. Whenever you feel that a crises comes call a friend or someone; get out of the house and take a walk outside, listen to music or take a hot bath, write in a journal your emotions, go to church and maybe you will find peace there, cook or clean the house (get yourself busy), you can try to do some yoga, sing, draw a picture suggesting what is hurting you or the person that has hurt you, avoid temptations, hold ice cubs in your hand (cold make you hurt but it doesn’t damage your body). Remember that crying is not a shame, whenever you feel hurt and strong emotions are going thru your mind just let yourself cry.

Order to overcome the difficult moments of life is needed primarily because nothing will be so severely that have no solution. The most important thing in life is just a man that is alive, and that there is a chance to live a life as he wants, just as it builds his liking.

Everyone has problems, but most matters that we need to know how to overcome these moments. Self defense is significant in the life of every person, so there should not doubt that each person is powerful and can demonstrate that it can overcome difficult moments. But not all people think alike, there are people who can not get over difficult times and after some thought their goals or even get hurt to make scars, they not think that they hurt themselves very much and they don’t think of the consequences.

Is important that each of us to have control over everything that he wants to do, is very well that when we have trouble knowing who to speak and ask for advice to anyone, at any time. There are scars that we can not fix, there are things that are never coming back, therefore you must trust in you and to protect your heart disease primarily because once this occurred, you can think than how you must do to be good.

There are many things that people keep them inside, do not tell anyone, this is good but also have bad sides to stick with things that once are in the soul is possible to stay with them forever and leave you serious signs of depression. To get rid of scars left behind from a depression needs a lot of patience and help from people around, you need to be supported in all respects. No one should ever leave overwhelmed by the worse situation because there are good parts and bad parts of life, but when you are in a bad situation, try to see the good ones, although it can be very difficult.